Fudging the truth is a way you show respect for entities. It's like when a young mother of three dies of cancer, religious people will mention it and then say, "God is sovereign". This a sign they are deferring to God. Also, when a high-status person ghosts a lot...
Wrong Lessons
I am not learning the lessons from my suffering that those in power want me to. They want me to concoct some kind of redemptive narrative out of all I suffer. I can't and I won't. Some of the lessons. Power is the most important thing. Power and empowerment are the...
Muses
People wonder why I am not motivated by money. That one is easy, I have never had money so I don't know what having money is like. The employers I do the most for wonder why I'm not motivated by money when they haven't paid me enough to even live on my own in a modest...
Trauma does not make you stronger
Who would have thought repeated exposure to trauma doesn't make you stronger.
What Helps the Most
People blame social media for generation Z's mental health woes and that may be part of it but it's an easy scapegoat that requires us to do none of the inner work as to why things have gotten the way they have. Having a serious mental illness myself I would like to...
Cognitive Sharps
In the mental hospital there is a cabinet designated sharps that is locked because it contains things that someone could cut themselves with. A cognitive sharp isn't something that necessarily hurts you but it is something that you can take and go hurt yourself with...
Fractal
Some preferences are pretty inconsequential like whether you prefer strawberry or vanilla ice cream. However, some have huge ramifications. I'm going to focus on a person's religion here though this could be applied to other things. A person's spiritual state is like...
these are fighting words of the defeated
I was writing a friend about how what happened in my worst traumas sticks with me. The trauma itself obviously does but what the results of your gasping for something factor in as well. I found out after an incident where I thought my dad was going to kill me when I...
Intersectionality is thorny
Intersectionality is thorny in ways that both sides of the conservative/liberal divide don't appreciate. Intersectionality refers to the idea that when someone is a member of more than one marginalized group their experience is a singularity to people who only belong...
it wasn’t worth it
people say the pain of the process will make sense in the endbut kneading and baking are only worth it if the bread doesn't burn As I write this some people are trying to concoct some kind of redemptive narrative on how the last four years of Trump made us better...