One of the therapist’s tropes about being self conscious is, “people think about you so much less than you think”. But that’s not the problem, the issue is what they think when they think of you. And if they judge and write you off the might not be having any novel thoughts about you at all. When they meet you, people usually give you a, usually vanishingly small, window of opportunity to “prove” you are worth their engagement. If you don’t pass the test they’ll write you off and won’t engage you in subsequent meetings. They aren’t thinking of you at all but that doesn’t mean they don’t think of you negatively, they just judged you and you are not worth the effort for even their negative thoughts.