Great discussion on LinkedIn replying to this: Good thing I didn’t get used to these crazy salaries and perks because all that is about to change. Tech salaries are way out of line with reality in these FAANG companies and all it takes is a recession to shine light on...
The lower you are in society the less people associate with you on their own free will. I am neurodivergent, bipolar, and visually impaired and every decade I've been treated worse (though the outlier to this was junior high where I had the typical crappy experience)....
One of the therapist's tropes about being self conscious is, "people think about you so much less than you think". But that's not the problem, the issue is what they think when they think of you. And if they judge and write you off the might not be having any novel...
Don't have a visible physical disability along with the neurotic personality type (like me). A neurotic personality type is STARVED for positivity from their environment but a visible physical disability makes every interaction with the abled world an incursion. So...
As you know I am someone with a physical disability (moderate visual impairment with weird-looking glasses) and a mental illness (bipolar 1). I think a physical disability plus a mental illness adds up to more than the sum of its parts. At least it has in my life....
I recently read one of the most profound Reddit comments I have ever read, in response to someone suggesting the thread poster go into tech. They said tech job interviews are basically hazing. I wish someone would have told me this 20 years ago, it could have saved me...
I don't have the ability to read minds. If you want me to do or not do something you need to tell me. What complicates things in this regard is some people are hurt by bluntness while others are helped. My best friends tend to be blunt. Sarah did a good write up on...
I honestly can't think of anything that fans the flame of narcissism more than being judged. When someone judges you they are signaling that there is something about you they didn't like. Generally they don't tell you what it was or they say some bullshit thing that...
I have long argued that socialization was a a series of feedback loops and if it started out negative you were screwed. Now a study of autistic individuals interacting with the wider world agrees with me. Challenges can be constructive but people who always had to...
Amazingly honest disability perspective. Those of us with disabilities make those abled around us uncomfortable. How do we deal with it? See it video.