God is like a towel in that you don’t look for him until you need him and he’s not there. A lot of things are like this. Most people don’t need things but then when they do they’re not there. Atomized individuals don’t need people to act sacrificially to engage them which is why spaces where people interact atomized individual to atomized individual flow smoothly. But once you are outed as a non atomized individual (by something as trivial as not having a car or a job) you are bounced out. Because people have to act sacrificially to engage you and the culture is literally saturated in people telling you not to act sacrificially.