Great Reddit thread on relationship advice for people with Aspergers syndrome.
Relationship Advice
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Colors
I don't have Synthesia but I do associate decades, months, and weekdays with colors. I have had access to paint programs since the age of 13 but never thought to map them out until a couple weeks ago. In a psychotic break I did a lot with colors as well so when I do...
Lesson: Bluntness Threshold
You can't ascertain the exact meaning of any statement without taking the person into account. Some people will be blunt in most situations while others won't until facing some grave situation. So one person's bluntness verses another's is not an apples to apples...
Lesson: Metadata
Often in social interactions the metadata is the most important and poignant part of the interaction (metadata is the data that precedes and describes the main data). In the case of social interactions the metadata are things like your age, your gender, your looks,...
Lesson: Getting at the Truth
Words and generalizations are a match made in heaven. You ask people a question like "does status really matter" and you will get the standard therapeutic B.S. The point is, almost like the doctor knee toy hammering test, people have an autonomous dissembling...
Social Independence
We are consummate individualists. But we consider people socially independent when the social interaction they (like everybody) depend upon comes on account of their merit. Someone without a disability holds down a job and the social interaction from said job (and...
Lesson: Friendship Window of Opportunity
People give you a (often vanishingly small) window of opportunity to prove you are worth their acceptance/friendship. Once this window of opportunity closes it's pretty useless to even engage them. The window's size varies from person to person. Some people will...
Lesson: You are not on the Star Trek Enterprise
I love Star Trek. It seems like every episode there is some kind of crisis and the captain and crew have to use logic and ingenuity to solve it. There are even Vulcans on the original and Voyager who are super logical and whose logic is valued and often acted upon...
Lesson: People Will Not Give You Error Messages
If you do any kind of programming or even surf the web enough, you will run into error messages. Usually these error messages will give you an indication of what is going wrong. For example, when Dropbox failed the other night and I clicked on a video of mine that...
reverse tactics
They tell police working on a case where someone is holding hostages that if they find out said hostage taker is a psychopath, they must reverse course, using a different set of tactics to try to get the hostages freed. I feel a similar way with people in social...