People don't understand that if you don't teach the unwritten rules people (especially those of us on the spectrum) are going to learn them the hard way. The more of a struggle learning something the more you retain and obsess over it. If someone had gently told me...
People get forgiveness wrong. In a wrong strong enough not to forgive generally the person wronged has people not forgiving them for the fallout of said wrong. I've had people wrong me in the past that have precipitated the destruction of my mental health. I can...
One of the issues with those on the spectrum (including myself) is taking society's noble lies at face value. This has been a cause of consternation in my life. One of the noble lies I believed was that friendships would last forever (in some capacity) if both...
People tell you to improve your life you need to take on a new thing be it a job, a medication, volunteering, or something else. What they fail to tell you is if you are on the bottom it is very difficult to impossible to actually quit that new thing you tried. This...
Following up on my Forgiveness and Indra's Net post, I think a lot of times forgiveness just makes things more difficult. I know this is not an opinion that is going to be popular with religion or modern psychology but my experience has been it's been true. Wrongs...
Sometimes people on the spectrum's mannerisms mimic shoplifters. Follow these tips to be safer. These tips apply for anyone, especially anyone who is not clean cut, neurotypical and white. If possible don't bring a backpack into a store. It raises suspicion. Never...
Great comment by Josh on a NYTimes creativity article: Unless he's one of a very lucky few, the creative person will be punished for his creativity at every stage of his life. School rewards students only for completing simple exercises according to schedule. At work,...
You can't ascertain the exact meaning of any statement without taking the person into account. Some people will be blunt in most situations while others won't until facing some grave situation. So one person's bluntness verses another's is not an apples to apples...
Often in social interactions the metadata is the most important and poignant part of the interaction (metadata is the data that precedes and describes the main data). In the case of social interactions the metadata are things like your age, your gender, your looks,...
Words and generalizations are a match made in heaven. You ask people a question like "does status really matter" and you will get the standard therapeutic B.S. The point is, almost like the doctor knee toy hammering test, people have an autonomous dissembling...