Fudging the truth is a way you show respect for entities. It's like when a young mother of three dies of cancer, religious people will mention it and then say, "God is sovereign". This a sign they are deferring to God. Also, when a high-status person ghosts a lot...
If I hire someone who promises to do good work and they do shoddy work do I have the right to be angry with them? Wouldn't it show I respected them less if I weren't? Our generation expects God to act the way he is sold as acting not because we are skeptical but...
I think they need to add to language that you put an apostrophe after things to delineate your experience of them. So example God' told you to do something means your experience of God told you to do it. Also they need to delineate the tripe psychologists shove down...
Intersectionality is thorny in ways that both sides of the conservative/liberal divide don't appreciate. Intersectionality refers to the idea that when someone is a member of more than one marginalized group their experience is a singularity to people who only belong...
I don't have the ability to read minds. If you want me to do or not do something you need to tell me. What complicates things in this regard is some people are hurt by bluntness while others are helped. My best friends tend to be blunt. Sarah did a good write up on...
Modern society has made it that much more confusing to navigate with the fact that some asks are really tells. In the olden days there were more tells, in traditional culture there were right and wrong things, for example the Ten Commandments. Nowadays modern...
Show values permeate our existence to such a degree that it's easy to start believing they are actually true. Obama comes to mind, persisting to believe in the better angels of our nature even after being given evidence otherwise over and over again. The other side of...
Really interesting TED talk about judging your thoughts the way people judge you to quell the like/dislike monster. The book he references Evolving Beyond Thought has you memorizing Sanskrit philosophy to help quell the storm of thoughts in your skull. The two...
I want more money. Money in the real world lets you go on all kinds of fun trips (at least pre-COVID) and gives you all kinds of health and security. Money in your brain does something similar, you can spend it to produce beliefs in happy delusions. That's why...
Following up on my Forgiveness and Indra's Net post, I think a lot of times forgiveness just makes things more difficult. I know this is not an opinion that is going to be popular with religion or modern psychology but my experience has been it's been true. Wrongs...